In my mid-20s, I moved back home after a rough breakup.
Most of the friends I’d had before were part of couples, and suddenly I was single and trying to figure out what my life looked like now.
I ended up reconnecting with a couple people I’d known in high school. We started going out together on weekends and slowly built a new social circle after college, meeting people at local bars and through volunteering in the community.
We had our regular restaurants, our regular bars and the kind of weekends that routinely lasted much later than I could manage now.
Last weekend, about twenty years later, a group of us that volunteered together in our 20s met back at one of our old bars. At 3:00 in the afternoon.
I was more nervous walking in than I expected to be.
I’d seen a few people over the years, but there were others I hadn’t seen in close to twenty years. I wondered whether anyone would recognize me. I wondered who I would talk to and whether conversation would feel forced after so much time.
It didn’t.
Somehow, conversation picked up surprisingly easily. For a little while, I felt like I was back in my twenties, talking to the same people I’d once seen every weekend.
The bar itself had the same strange feeling. So much had changed, but enough was familiar that I could still picture what it had been like when we were regulars.
I remembered the bartenders. I remembered watching familiar friends walk through the doors on the weekends. There have been plenty of improvements over the years—some I definitely would have appreciated back then—but underneath all of that, I could still see our old place.
Being back made me happy in a way I hadn’t expected. But there was some sadness mixed in too.
I missed those friendships. I missed the freedom we had then, when a weekend could revolve around where we were going that night instead of everything that needed to get done before Monday.
And I missed the feeling that this place was ours.
It isn’t anymore.
We’re not the people walking through those doors every weekend. Someone else probably has their regular table now. Someone else knows the bartenders and expects to see the same familiar faces come through the door.
But for a few hours, being there with those people made twenty years feel surprisingly small.
Then we said goodbye and went back to the lives we’ve built since.
Walking away, it felt like nothing had changed and yet almost everything had.
💌 Before You Go…
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